Babe, We Need to Talk…
That phrase which utterly wrenches one’s gut. Whether you’ve done something wrong or not, the “babe, we need to talk” line runs chills up spines and makes jumping in front of a bus seem merciful to the soul.
But sometimes, it is necessary. Unfortunately.
Especially in a time such as this. The country is divided, as you may have heard. Depending on who you ask, our President is either a magnanimous genius who is the second coming of Reagan with a dash of James Bond mixed in, or a pussy-grabbing brown people-hating utter idiot who has tiny hands and is “literally Hitler” (who is non-literal Hitler?) What a time to be alive!
And then Americans wonder why we cannot have a “reasonable, honest, and open discussion about _____.” Get real. It’s because if we disagree, we’re called racist bigoted misogynistic homophobic science-denying mouth-breathing knuckle-dragging retards (which is ok to use as long as you’re bashing conservatives) who eat at Chik-fil-a. That’s why. The progressive left doesn’t want a reasonable, honest, and open discussion on any serious topic, unless, of course, you agree with them, pander to them, or perform mental Monica Lewinsky on them. Discourse, especially over disagreements and misunderstandings, is an effective way to sift through an issue and have a fuller understanding of the opposition. Is the opposition ill-willed? Do they want they want what is best? Are they misinformed? Am I misinformed? After having a discussion on healthcare with a leftist friend of mine (if I didn’t have leftist friends, I wouldn’t have friends. San Francisco/Los Angeles based.), my eyes were opened to why he believed what he believed, instead of assuming he was an ignorant lefty Bernie Bro (see, we’re all guilty!). We’ll get to proposed solutions later.
Obviously I’m talking about the liberals versus the conservatives in modern America, and I am specifically referring to the progressive left and the further-than-just-republican right. Although I consider myself an independent thinker, I prefer to be honest and transparent, as bias evades nobody. Personally, I align with conservatives more often than not, although on social policy I agree with libertarians or democrats, depending on how they deal with the issue. However, putting political allegiances aside, this issue of the two sides of the political isle not being able to speak with one another is concerning to say the least. Rather than adult informed discourse, we see temper tantrums and name-calling.
Oh, the irony.
You see, on nearly every single issue, the progressive left and the conservative movements disagree. This isn’t an issue in itself. Now when one group tries to silence the other group (aka censorship), this is concerning. Furthermore, the two sides can’t even talk about it. They just scream at each other, yell “I’m telling mommy,” take their toys and go home. I’d be willing to bet if Dana White held a PPV MMA-style debate event, people would pay to watch. That’s how Politicon has become so popular, headlining Ben Shapiro and Sally Kohn in 2016 (easily over 1 million views, all channels combined). With issues such as immigration, climate change, Islam and terrorism; personalities like Trump, Cruz, Hillary or Bernie; movements like Black Lives Matter, ANTIFA (anti-fascist), Woman’s March, and anti-trump protests; campus issues such as blind obedience to professors, lack of critical thought/skepticism, and censorship of opposing views; and the always popular facts versus human emotion; this short list is an example of topics which are so decisive, and the rhetoric so strong, that discussion is nearly impossible.
Essentially, the debate over these and many other hot-button topics has come to a point where people are either unwilling to debate, resort to name-calling, censor via violence, assign motive and mind read in order to assign intent, or hide in an echo chamber. Of course no open-minded college liberal would burn things because a conservative was coming to lecture. Oh wait, that happened. Of course nobody would honestly call Trump Hitler or compare the two, doing so would undermine the atrocities of the Holocaust and World War II! Oh, wait a second...that happened too? Of course nobody would assume what is in someone else’s heart and mind and label them a racist, because racists are outcasts in today’s society! Damn, that too?! Let’s take a look at when this craziness has actually occurred:
Unwilling to Debate
In Washington State, a high school football team is so big, so fast, so strong, and so good that opponent are forfeiting due to player safety concerns. The Archbishop Murphy Wildcats are a powerhouse. You know you’re good when your opponents are too scared to even show up. This is precisely what is happening to Ben Shapiro of The Daily Wire. According to Ben himself, the most pressing challenge in scheduling debates with leftists is that leftists are no longer willing to debate him. Like the opponents of the Archbishop Murphy Wildcats, the leftist opponents are forfeiting to a conservative powerhouse.
During the epic (link) Ted Cruz V. Bernie Sanders debate on healthcare policy last week, Steven Crowder of Louder with Crowder live-streamed the event and offered commentary (along with a drinking game). Kyle Kulinski of Secular Talk tweeted live, and Crowder challenged him to a debate. No word from Kulinski, even though Crowder has more subscribers than Kulinski (650,000 to 465,000, respectively), and Kulinski has commented about Crowder before. MAKE THIS DEBATE HAPPEN!
Censorship Via Violence:
In early 2016, conservative author and radio host Ben Shapiro was scheduled to give a lecture at California State University Los Angeles. His speech topic? That intellectual diversity is imperative and necessary for political discourse. The response? An attempt to shut down free speech, naturally. Near Riots burst out, with reporters and supporters being assaulted, fire alarms being repeatedly pulled, entrances and exits blocked, and police escorts deemed a necessity. Violence as the answer to a differing viewpoint, one that advocates for intellectual diversity, leads to dangerous behavior and a troubling intellectual echo chamber for our youth. This is the modern progressive left on college campuses in America. Shapiro was even banned from speaking at DePaul University, and was told if he took three more steps on campus (where he had a scheduled lecture), he would be arrested. Check out the video here. Echo Chamber.
People on the progressive left believe that it’s ok to punch Nazis. Richard Spencer is the self-proclaimed “Leader of the Alt-Right movement.” Considering the progressive left calls Richard Spencer a Nazi, they believe that it is perfectly within moral confines to punch him; and that’s exactly what happened.
The problem exists when they start calling other, non-Nazi persons, Nazis. Now, it’s ok to punch said “Nazi,” even if they have nothing in common with the Nazi platform or repugnant set of ideas. Now, it’s ok to punch anyone, so long as you first yell “NAZI!” Which leads us to our next example…
The problem exists when they start calling other, non-Nazi persons, Nazis. Now, it’s ok to punch said “Nazi,” even if they have nothing in common with the Nazi platform or repugnant set of ideas. Now, it’s ok to punch anyone, so long as you first yell “NAZI!” Which leads us to our next example…
…Milo Yiannopoulos. The leftists call him a neo-Nazi and white supremacist. UC Berkeley, my alma mater, responds by burning things, smashing windows, and beating people with metal pipes. I’m sure many of you have heard of this incident, so we’ll spare the details, but this exemplifies why it’s not acceptable to punch Richard Spencer even if he is a Nazi. As far as Milo is concerned, he’s a gay Jew who “loves black cock” and calls himself “The Dangerous Faggot.” So I doubt Hitler would allow Milo into his inner circle, but perhaps my understanding of history is incorrect. As Milo says, even if he were a Nazi and a white supremacist, he should still have the right to walk onto a college campus and give a talk. The best solution to racism or any hateful and disgusting ideology is to shine a light on it. More on this later, in the solutions section of this article.
This mindset of “I’m right, you’re wrong, therefore I punch you in the face” is troubling largely because it seems to be gaining traction amongst the protestors and is growing in size and occurrences. First is was the Black Lives Matter “protests,” then Baltimore, then Oakland/San Francisco, then a few anti-Trump protestors assaulting supporters, and now this type of behavior is the norm amongst protests (notable exceptions: Woman’s March, Woman’s Pro-life March). Furthering the aforementioned episodes, Gavin McInnes is the most recent among the victims of this violent and cowardly behavior. The Vice co-founder and conservative voice was scheduled to give a talk at NYU, and the leftist ANTIFA (Anti-Fascist) group charged his entrance, shut down the event, and even pepper sprayed him. For an anti-fascist group, using violence and force to shut down opposing viewpoints seems awfully….fascist…no?
Assigning Motive, Psychic Mind Reading, and Asserting Intent:
YOU CAN’T READ MINDS. Even if you paid $9.99 for a palm reading or tarot card session, mind reading isn’t available to us (yet). Stop asserting intent, assigning motive, and acting like psychic mind readers! Just because you say something is true, doesn’t make it true. Example: One day I’ll marry either A) Lauren Southern or B) Roaming Millennial. There, I said it, but that still doesn’t make it true (but a guy can keep up hope!). This mind reading is occurring at an alarming rate in today’s political debate.
-Assuming that someone who is anti-common core or anti-education department must not want children to be educated. Anti-Common Core/Department of Education ≠ anti-education.
-Assuming that someone who is anti-common core or anti-education department must not want children to be educated. Anti-Common Core/Department of Education ≠ anti-education.
-Assuming that someone who voted for Trump must be a misogynistic racist homophobic Islamophobic idiot. Voting for Trump ≠ Pro-Trump (could be anti-Hillary).
-Assuming that an individual who is pro-life rather than pro-choice must hate women, want to strip away women’s rights, and want to control every single choice that every single woman makes about her body, presumably including what hair style and color she is allowed to have. Anti-abortion ≠ the desire to control a woman’s life.
-Assuming that someone who is against nationalized healthcare or Obamacare must want people to die in the streets from lack of healthcare access. Anti-nationalized healthcare ≠ anti-health/well-being.
-Assuming that anti-Black Lives Matter folk are racist or are fine with black people being shot by police, justified or not. Anti-BLM ≠ anti-black.
Conservatives and liberals often want the same or similar outcome, but the means in which to arrive at the final destination is disagreed upon. If we plan a trip from California to New York, and you think we should take the train to see the sights and save money, while I think we should fly and save time, this does not mean I'm anti-train or anti-beauty. This simply means that I have a different idea of what the best way to get there is. I'm not "train-ophobic!"
Conservatives and liberals often want the same or similar outcome, but the means in which to arrive at the final destination is disagreed upon. If we plan a trip from California to New York, and you think we should take the train to see the sights and save money, while I think we should fly and save time, this does not mean I'm anti-train or anti-beauty. This simply means that I have a different idea of what the best way to get there is. I'm not "train-ophobic!"
Hiding in an Echo Chamber
A huge issue when dealing with open discussion is the problem of echo chambers. An event occurs, be it a bombing or a congressional hearing, and many people already know what they’re going to think about it. They have these biases, then turn on a news network that they love because they agree on nearly everything. The liberal turns to Buzzfeed or MSNBC, the conservative turns to Fox or The Blaze. Naturally, the “other side” is dumb and wrong. This problem is only escalated when we take into account the internet, internet news shows, and YouTube shows. In this case we’re quite literally searching for views we align with. Granted, some people watch and listen to both sides, I know I try to do that myself. But I doubt this is the majority of people, although that is pure speculation and life experience. People yell that Bill O’Reilly is a racist. I’ll ask them how many times they have seen his show. They say they don’t watch it, but they “saw a clip once.” My goodness. Try to challenge yourself once in a while; if your ideas are honestly correct, they’ll withhold the scrutiny of rigorous questioning. They’ll stand the test of time, and that will make you much more firm in your beliefs.
This echo chamber effect happened all too often when I was in college. Of course Berkeley is the liberal epicenter of the universe, but they must be about intellectual challenges and the great battle of ideas!
Wrong! See Above: Riots. All I saw were heads nodding in agreement with every word the professor said, except when he was teaching Hayek or Friedman, of course. I imagined a bit more intellectual skepticism, but did not see much of it.
Feelings vs facts, as nobody can deny your feelings. These college students get offended by any opposing viewpoint, and the use of micro-aggressions, trigger warnings, and safe spaces are absurd. Offense culture? Well I’m offended by easily offended pussies. Fair enough? Echo chamber.
I visited the Woman’s March in downtown Los Angeles, and spoke with a number of men and women. I would approach them politely and asked simple questions such as “if Trump isn’t your president, who is?” They not only didn’t respond, but often said something to the effect of “oh, you’re one of those.” The people I encountered have never had their viewpoints challenged, nor have they been asked to define or defend their principles. The group even denied pro-life woman’s groups from participating equally in the march. It’s not about women’s rights; it’s about woman-who-we-agree-with’s rights. Echo chamber.
By far the worst of the worst in relation to echo chambers and lack of opposing opinions was presented while in college. I talked at length about this during this Podcast, so I’ll keep it short. College is a place to challenge your ideas and worldview. It is a place for critical thinking, questioning, playing devil’s advocate, and being skeptical. It’s not courageous to be progressive on a college campus, because everyone agrees with you. It’s not fighting “the man” or resisting authority, because everyone agrees with you. The professor would say something about socialism being misunderstood and “if only we practiced it this way…” and all I saw were students nodding their heads in agreement. Not one dissenter, even though no doubt someone else in the class of 200 must have disagreed! If you want to be courageous, or fight the man, or resist the establishment, then debate from the conservative point of view, even if you don’t believe it. That’s courage, skepticism, and intellectual rigor. Have some balls, some cojones. Try it. LEAVE THE ECHO CHAMBER!!!
Name Calling as a Debate Tactic and The Little Boy Who Cried Wolf
Calling someone a name is not a great debate tool, nor does it foster discussion. So stop it. Too many examples to pick from. See above.
In regards to Trump, the left has to either 1) take him seriously and critique him, his words, actions, etc., OR 2) call him a dumb idiot fraud. But you can’t have it both ways! But when they say Trump lies, and then take other things he has said seriously and critique them, this is awfully convenient. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. The left has to either take him at his word or not. Political convenience should not be a factor, as there is plenty to critique either way.
In a larger sense, as Tomi Lahren once said, once you get called a racist so many times, it starts to not sting as much. You see, if you call everyone a racist, then when an actual racist comes along, nobody will believe you. Furthermore, it takes away from the actual racism that has occurred in this country’s history. Racism isn’t voting for Trump, racism is not allowing blacks to drink from the same fountain as whites. Come on, let’s be honest here. This is the issue with Black Lives Matter, anti-trump protests, and woman’s marches; if everyone is a racist, sexist, etc., then it becomes impossible to distinguish between real and fake. Stop crying wolf. Conservatives are guilty of this as well, especially when we look at potential scandals about Hillary Clinton or Barack Obama that ended up not being true (i.e. birther movement). When conservatives do this, it takes away significant credibility when an actual scandal hits, such as Hillary’s health issues.
Solutions:
The first step in uniting the divided electorate is to talk. Talk openly, talk often, and talk publicly. The CNN debate between Senator Bernie Sanders and Senator Ted Cruz on healthcare is a perfect example of the direction we need to go. They were honest about their positions, to their credit, and both Bernie and Cruz supporters that I talked to (anecdotal, I know) enjoyed the debate. They stayed on topic, and for the most part stuck to the issues at hand rather than name-calling and slandering. Whether you are a conservative student on campus or a senator on national TV, open debate is highly necessary, as it shows that discussion between opposing parties can occur. Even if the opposition’s ideas are in disagreement with your own, or if their words hurt your feelings, that’s OK. More than OK, becoming uncomfortable can lead to tremendous growth and is often a catalyst for either change or a deeper understanding of one’s own value set. As trainer Jeff Cavaliere says, “get comfortable being uncomfortable” if you want to reach success. Constructive conversations are a major player in fixing things.
Part two: advice to my leftist counterparts. Let us say, for example, that both Ben Shapiro and Milo Yiannopoulos are arriving on campus the next day to give lectures. Some of your comrades plan a protest, invite you, and throw on some Che Guevara tee shirts, scarves that cover their faces, and make signs. Instead of shutting down their lectures, which gives them publicity and actually grows their popularity, there is a better route to destroy your opponents. Show up, and wait for the Q & A section at the end of the lecture that both speakers do every speech. Then, since your ideas and worldview are superior, debate them. No, embarrass them! BURY THEM! Make them fumble on their words and look foolish and hypocritical! Not only is this effective, but it happens on camera. On their camera. The footage goes on their website. Go onto enemy turf, and embarrass them at their own show on their own platforms. This will deal a much harsher blow then chanting “no racist! No KKK! No fascist USA!” a million times. We’ve heard it all before. Again, all this does is grow the audience of your opponent. Beat them at their own game! Give them a taste of their own medicine!
Now onto the slurs. The racism, misogyny, Islamophobia, etc. The best way to beat these disgusting ideas is to shine light on them, not crying wolf. If someone is an actual racist, with evidence, then letting them speak (at a college campus, for example) is the best thing to do. Why? Well, I believe that most Americans, especially college students, are smart enough to think “hey, this guy is promoting hate, racism, and terribly divisive ideas. Bad!” Done. If you, however, believe that Americans and college students are dumb enough to believe every pretty face that graces a lectern, then perhaps you have the terrible worldview. Therefore, if you believe that Ben, Milo, Gavin, or Richard Spencer are hateful racists, then allow them to tell everyone about it. Sunlight is often the best disinfectant.
Getting uncomfortable and having those tough talks are not only the (very partial) solutions to our political divide, but to the old “babe, we need to talk.” It all boils down to a little something I learned a few (20) years back:
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
**This article was written (not published) prior to the Milo/pedophilia debacle and was not edited to reflect recent events.
**See podcast #2: Speaking…Freely? For more on this topic. www.GenerationWho.com/podcasts.html
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